Are you an Alienating Parent?

by admin on December 6, 2008

Some examples of when you may be an alienating parent.

  • Give the child decision-making power about spending time with the other parent when no choice exists.
  • Discussing attractive alternatives for time scheduled with the other parent.
  • Interfere with the other parents time by scheduling events during that time.
  • Use the child as a spy or messenger.
  • Allow the child to speak negatively or disrespectfully about the other parent.
  • Share details of the divorce settlement or subsequent legal issues with the child.
  • Infringe on the other parent’s time with excessive phone calls, emails, text messages etc or scheduled activities.
  • Erasing the other parent from their life, for example not allowing photos at the house, not allowing discussions about the other parent.
  • Telling the target parent that the child can’t come to the phone because he is busy watching television, doing homework, or playing.  Prior to a divorce, most parents would put the child on anyway.
  • Calling, emailing, texting while at the target parent’s to ask if she “is okay?” or “if things are going okay?”  This puts doubts in the child’s head about the target parent’s ability to care for the child.
  • Criticizing the other parents discipline style, cooking or anything else.  Even comparing it negatively to yours.

This is not an all-inclusive list.  If you have additional examples or questions, please ask!

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